Day 7: The book describes TWO ROOMS within our heart.
ONE is the APPRECIATION ROOM.
the other is the DEPRECIATION ROOM.
we will spend more time in one than the other.
if you notice more NEGATIVE coming out of your mouth, then maybe you've been
SPRAY PAINTING the walls of the DEPRECIATION ROOM.
for this week, try this:
Pick out two pieces of paper. on one piece WRITE out POSITIVE things about your spouse.
on the other piece, WRITE out NEGATIVE things about your spouse.
SAVE THESE for later.
Now pick out ONE thing from the POSITIVE list and THANK YOUR SPOUSE for having this CHARACTERISTIC.
11 comments:
i normally hang out in the appreciation room.
i also spend a good amount of time in the depreciation room where i divise strategies to prove i'm right and why she should adjust to my ways.
sadly i often spend too much time in the hallway between the two.
kinda just loitering if you will.
for the most part , i adore my fiance. she is truly all that heaven will allow a bum like me.
JUST IN CASE YOU THINK I SHOULD THINK MORE HIGHLY OF MYSELF, well then you must be a visitor to this blog and YOU DON'T KNOW ME! LOL
i think i'll make sure princess knows that i love her selfless personality.
i know she will like this.
or maybe i'll bring up how hard she works, and the sacrifice I KNOW she makes as she works outside the home.
We finally got around to day 7 yesterday in fact! Sometimes I too find myself spending a lot of in between time, in the hallway if you will. But there were many more positives and it was very difficult to find negatives. I found myself thinking of silly things as negatives and then laughing as I wrote them down and scratched them out! Because they weren't really negatives. I thanked John for giving the kids baths and getting them ready for bed each night while I work my night shifts. It's a blessing that he takes so much care of them.
with people in general i tend to spend more time in the DEPRECIATE ROOM.
IT JUST COMES MORE NATURAL
you know she deserves everything she gets. she has never really opened up herself to me.
she'd rather chat on the phone with someone else.
so if i depreciate her, well its her fault. as for a positive list, forget it.
mb
I've been spending more time in the appreciation room, yea!!
My husband is a good man. He works hard. Still, sometimes he pinches my most delicate nerves.
I wish I could tell you I have these two rooms. I don't know if I do. I just know sometimes we're hot and we're cold.
Really depends on how much time he devotes towards my direction. I used to try to meet his every need, but here lately, I just have gotten tired of giving and giving.
So if I have a room, I hang out in the Depreciation one.
Julie why don't you cut your guy some slack. I bet he workd hard & maybe long hours too. Maybe if you put out more he'd not pinch your nerves
Mb, if you can't get help, well then get out. No man deserves to be disrespected. So many times men get the shaft, but far too often we don't get our needs met either.
You're right tanner. We don't get our needs met sometimes. MAY I ASK YOU THIS ... ??
When you don't get your way, what is your default?
Its not only men who don't get their needs, we as women are often neglected and rejected. Tanner, I know you were hurt in your divorce and the way your friend treated you, but don't you think other people have been hurt by your actions too?
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