of not meeting a desirable or intended objective, and may be viewed as the opposite of success. so where do you find, no matter how hard you try, you find yourself in the LOSER'S BRACKET?
a lot I feel like I fail when it comes to the kids also... I do everything I know how, sometimes it just doesn't seem like I get it right. Then I think that maybe it's not the kids that I have failed with but myself, the circle goes round and round. I can beat myself up forever if I don't eventually let God handle some of it. It's so difficult sometimes. Right now is one of those times!
no, I can't see any finish line... I am stuck... ethan has a temper worse than my own (and mine is HOT!) he doesn't know how to control it and i don't know how to teach him. liam starts fights to see who he can get in trouble first. i can't even take them to the store because if i have a panic attack i'm done. i will not go through what i did sunday with people calling me names and crazy things. all they want to do is fight, all i want is NOT to have a panic attack because of it!
oh how? ha! that's what I get for not reading a whole question!
It probably affects my relationship with my husband the most. I want him to understand that they need limits and he and he wants them to go play so he can play. (it may not actually be that way, but that is my perception) It causes a lot of arguments... a lot of frustartion. I tell him I NEED him to understand I need his help, then he is angry with me and snaps at the kids.
after chatting with a friend i haven't spoken to in about 3 months, i discovered his behavior has produced what will be a new born within 4 months.
i call this a failure. i believe when he decided to engage in non-marital sex, he laid the tracks that will alter his life.
easy to judge from the sidelines, right? sorry, this is not my intention, but his failure to begin a relationship that would honor her, honor GOD, honor his two kids, WAS DERAILED when he decided to STIFF ARM GOD.
we've both been working on it all week after what happened last sunday... I've been clearer and easier about letting him know what I need without being pushy and bossy; which is hard for me sometimes... and he's been much better at receiving and listening. we need to keep that pattern steady.
RISK... RISK IS USUALLY INVOLVED WHEN FAILURE HAPPENS.
SOME RISK IS GOOD. home insurance, life insurance, car insurance. all three of these involve RISK.
SOME RISK IS BAD. flirting with danger, flirting with people not who are Not your spouse, checking out porn, paying peter to pay paul. all four of these involve RISK.
we must, I must choose when, where, and what i am willing to RISK.
I think men fail because they think they can. They think they can do whatever they want and not have to answer for it. I'm tired of it. I'm sick of it. Men need to pick up thier mancard and start making up for all the **!? they give . sy
You are right, we do need to step up and do the right thing. We as men need to take responsibility for what we do which is sometimes where we screw up. The word responsibility scares some men. Now not all men are like that, I have to stick up for the men a little. Some men do step up, but not as soon as you would like. Let men know when they have failed. Men do not like to be called out, but it does make them grow to be better men. When we get called out it hurts our ego and we will do almost anything to repair it. Support your man and he will step up if he knows that is what he should be doing. bf
i agree. i wish ladies covered up more, and wore less snug clothes.
yet by saying this, i am implying its thier fault. its not. its mine. i choose to look or to look away. i believe it would be better for men if the above were true. but we must look em in the eyes or below the thighs.
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i struggle with lust. used to be so much more than lust. but i must consciously focus elsewhere or i will stare where i ought not.
i must look women in the eyes or i may find myself drifting lower. much lower. i do a much better job when it comes to staring.
still... i tend to forget to focus away and i get caught in my man made tractor beam, with NO OBI-WAN to set me free.
i spoke with another man today about the problems he is having with his daughter.
i sense failure in his voice, in his words, in his heart.
men, we must take care of the little things when it comes to our kiddos.
we can't continue to overlook issues that need boundaries.
a lot I feel like I fail when it comes to the kids also... I do everything I know how, sometimes it just doesn't seem like I get it right. Then I think that maybe it's not the kids that I have failed with but myself, the circle goes round and round. I can beat myself up forever if I don't eventually let God handle some of it. It's so difficult sometimes. Right now is one of those times!
perhaps an apology is in order.
i forget we have more than just a MALE AUDIENCE.
sorry, girlintheroom.
as for your comment. it must be very frustrating the feeling you experience.
can you see a finish line?
no, I can't see any finish line... I am stuck... ethan has a temper worse than my own (and mine is HOT!) he doesn't know how to control it and i don't know how to teach him. liam starts fights to see who he can get in trouble first. i can't even take them to the store because if i have a panic attack i'm done. i will not go through what i did sunday with people calling me names and crazy things. all they want to do is fight, all i want is NOT to have a panic attack because of it!
HOW DOES YOUR INABILITY TO SEE A FINISH LINE AFFECT YOUR OTHER RELATIONSHIPS?
yes, I think It does....
oh how? ha! that's what I get for not reading a whole question!
It probably affects my relationship with my husband the most. I want him to understand that they need limits and he and he wants them to go play so he can play. (it may not actually be that way, but that is my perception) It causes a lot of arguments... a lot of frustartion. I tell him I NEED him to understand I need his help, then he is angry with me and snaps at the kids.
is there another approach you could take with him?
perhaps a word picture that would allow him to see what you see, but through his own day to day frustrations.
after chatting with a friend i haven't spoken to in about 3 months, i discovered his behavior has produced what will be a new born within 4 months.
i call this a failure. i believe when he decided to engage in non-marital sex, he laid the tracks that will alter his life.
easy to judge from the sidelines, right? sorry, this is not my intention, but his failure to begin a relationship that would honor her, honor GOD, honor his two kids, WAS DERAILED when he decided to STIFF ARM GOD.
PROBLEM FOR ME IS I STIFF ARM GOD TOO.
we've both been working on it all week after what happened last sunday... I've been clearer and easier about letting him know what I need without being pushy and bossy; which is hard for me sometimes... and he's been much better at receiving and listening. we need to keep that pattern steady.
reflecting on failure this past week, i believe when we let our guard down, we inch closer to vulnerability.
does vulnerability mean we will fail? Not necessarily, but it produces and grooms an environment that is conducive to failing.
we, men, must guard and protect our GREATEST TREASURE ... ya know that small civilization called the FAMILY UNIT.
men, they are counting on us.
so, where do we need to fortify?
for miguel, i need to be ever watching that as i counsel and give advice to people , that i keep certain boundaries.
this is extremely difficult.
as my friend pointed out, I AM NOT TRAINED.
funny, but his comment hurt my pride. yeah, i got a LOT OF WORK to do still.
RISK...
RISK IS USUALLY INVOLVED WHEN FAILURE HAPPENS.
SOME RISK IS GOOD.
home insurance, life insurance, car insurance. all three of these involve RISK.
SOME RISK IS BAD.
flirting with danger, flirting with people not who are Not your spouse, checking out porn, paying peter to pay paul. all four of these involve RISK.
we must, I must choose when, where, and what i am willing to RISK.
tonight i wonder if i have failed my friend.
i hope i havent. Man, i just want so bad for him to follow Jesus with more consistency.
of course i only see what i see.
i have so much to learn.
i don't have answers. just more questions.
my ability to see that finish line is no longer hindered
and I am no longer afraid
This, Christ has done for me.
I think men fail because they think they can. They think they can do whatever they want and not have to answer for it.
I'm tired of it. I'm sick of it.
Men need to pick up thier mancard and start making up for all the **!? they give .
sy
Dear sy
You are right, we do need to step up and do the right thing. We as men need to take responsibility for what we do which is sometimes where we screw up. The word responsibility scares some men. Now not all men are like that, I have to stick up for the men a little. Some men do step up, but not as soon as you would like. Let men know when they have failed. Men do not like to be called out, but it does make them grow to be better men. When we get called out it hurts our ego and we will do almost anything to repair it. Support your man and he will step up if he knows that is what he should be doing.
bf
nice point, bf
men will do almost anything to repair it. the ego . the ego. ya know, maybe its ego that keeps us in the cycle of failure.
Maybe if men put up some guardrails in their life, maybe it would be easier for them not to fail.
not to crash and stall out in the ditch.
get some men in yourlife, men.
get some ladies in yourlife, ladies.
I work around alot of pretty women. Its ahrd to keep my eyes from wondering at places i shouldnt be lookikng at.
i agree.
i wish ladies covered up more, and wore less snug clothes.
yet by saying this, i am implying its thier fault.
its not. its mine. i choose to look or to look away.
i believe it would be better for men if the above were true.
but we must look em in the eyes or below the thighs.
hey i just made a funny. lol
good men fail because they don't listen when thier women try to warn them.
yeah, i'd have to agree with savannah. i would have been better off , more often if only i trusted my fiance's counsel.
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